The reason why most people go into a relationship is to find a potential mate for marriage. This means that a lot of people have marriage in view as they enter relationship. But there are some red flags that show themselves as the relationship progresses. These red flags will show you whether or not your partner sees you in their mind as their future spouse. People already knew what they wanted and sometimes, it may not necessarily be you. The signs may be there but you are ignoring them because of love. Red flags that will show you signs that he will not marry you and you shouldn’t ignore are:
Violence: When you are in a relationship with someone who beats you all the time, that is enough of a sign that he is not seeing you as a future wife. People don’t beat or become violent towards the people they love. They say love conquers all things and that means it can conquer anger or any other emotional instability that may lead to domestic violence.
Secrecy: People love to show off who they love and plan to marry. Marriage is a beautiful thing. Even if he is a very private person, he should be able to show you to few people that are in his inner circle. A man who does not want to marry you will not even allow his friends to know that you are existing. Men tend to be possessive when they are dating someone they want to marry. They would want to mark territory by telling everyone who matters about you.
No Emotional Connection: Any man that wants to marry you will first create that emotional connection first. If it’s always about sex and flexing, he has no plans to marry you. If he does not feel the butterfly in his belly at the sight of you, you are far from becoming a spouse. Also, if he is not showing time and consistency in meeting your emotional needs, there is every tendency that he is not planning to marry you. If there is no prolonged eye contact or he is not emotionally available , that is a red flag you should not ignore. Men love to be open with the ones they intend to marry because genuine love and connection will make them open up.
Lack of Direction: The men always know what they are doing. Every man will know whether you are going to be the future wife or not from onset. The fact that he is not giving the relationship a firm direction is enough red flag for you to take to your heels. Don’t ignore the signs when he doesn’t want to tell you what you guys are doing or where the relationship is headed. He might have a better option by the corner or he simply does not want to marry you.
No Physical Attraction: A man who wants to marry you will make out time for you. If he is always saying that he is busy or that he does not want to meet you physically, he is not planning to marry you. If he makes not plans to go out with you or get to know you properly, he has no plans to marry you. The point is that the man is not finding you physically attractive. Men would make out time to draw closer to whoever they want to marry. The irony is that he may just be using you to hold place. You should note that men always have options and they know what they like. This is more noticeable if they have money and status. If you know that you are not his type or spec, the right thing to do is to walk away. Do not ignore the red flags or else, it will end in tears.
Unwillingness to Accommodate: There will always be a disagreement between two people in a relationship. The solution is in knowing that nobody is perfect and accommodating their wrongdoings. If he does not want to tolerate your mistakes, then he does not plan to marry. Men even make excuses for the ones they love and wish to marry. Lack of tolerance is a big red flag. Nobody is above mistake. To live in peace as husband and wife requires a lot of patience and tolerance.
The Inability to Commit: If a man is not ready to commit to you, he is not going to marry you. It is not about personal weakness. It is about making personal decision to be loyal to the woman that will give birth to your children. The inability to commit to you is a red flag that should not be ignored. If he is still acting single or flirting around women, even in your presence, it is a big red flag. Every man who is seeking a life partner is a family-oriented person and family cannot stand if there is no commitment from the man of the house
No Future Ambition: Another red flag you should not ignore is when a man has no future ambition. Women get married to a man’s future while a man gets married to a woman’s past. So, if this man has no plans for the future, like plans to settle down or start a family, it’s enough reason to pick up your Sandals and take to your heels. If he is not planning to marry, he will be acting like he is unsure of you, or uncertain about what the future holds for both of you.
Trust Issues: Relationship that will lead to marriage will be based on trust, respect and mutual understanding. A situation whereby the trust is not there, that is a red flag. You cannot commit your forever to someone you cannot trust. It’s always good to iron out differences and address any suspicion openly. If there is something he is doing that you don’t like, you should ask him to change or improve himself. If he does not trust your judgment or take your piece of advice seriously, he is not planning to marry. If he is always lying, cheating, or criticizing you, that is enough of a red flag for you to pack your bags and leave the relationship.
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