Whenever you are with someone who is hiding their true nature, you will know. The signs will always be there. Nothing is new under the sun. It is important to study patterns, behaviors, and perspectives of people you are in a relationship with. This will help you to identify the inconsistency in their character traits. This is why it is important to look at what people do rather than what they say. Someone who has a skeleton in his cupboard will definitely behave strangely. These are some of the strange behaviors to look out for:
Suspicious Privacy: The first behavior is that they begin to demand privacy inappropriately. There are sometimes that privacy is appropriate for meditation or creative pursuits. But when he wants to be left alone and not for the sake of the above, it becomes suspicious. If he is demanding privacy consistently, then there is a problem. It’s good to give people some breathing space but when they are overdoing it with no tangible reason, then it is obvious that they are not showing their true selves.
Inconsistent Lifestyles: If some of his lifestyles are not consistent with who he said he is, he is hiding his true self. That is why it is important to look at what people are doing rather than what they are saying. Their actions tend to betray who they are. For example, if they say they are Christians but you see them behaving like cultists on countless occasions, that’s proof that they are not showing their true selves. We have seen people in different cases who take up a title they have not earned or say they are who they are not just to fit in. They do this to gain access or favor. They also do this to get their selfish desires satisfied. But the catch is in the inconsistencies.
Too Many Incoherent Stories: When they begin to tell stories that don’t add up, it is a sign that they are hiding their true selves. They are always trying to cover up their lies with more lies. There are some lies that are just funny to hear. You will hear it and you will wonder if this person is with their senses. It simply means that they are not showing their true selves. Their brains are working frantically to suppress their real personality. This sign is most noticeable in people that are not naturally stupid or mentally unstable. If a normal person or a sensible person you have known for a while begins to tell you cock and bull stories, it’s a sign that they have something to hide. Those stories are there to fill in the emotional gaps. It is also a manipulation trick to make you forget that they are playing with you. It will make you relax or become preoccupied with the stories to the point that you won’t bother to know their real personality.
Nervousness: When they are talking, and there is an undue pressure to impress, it will show itself in their nervousness. They may be sweating or fidgeting. They may be stammering. They may even start stuttering or showing some speech impediments that were not there before . This emotional imbalance shows an inner disturbance that is taking place as a result of their effort of trying to hide who they are. So, whenever you are with a partner who is nervous around you, it shows that they are hiding their true selves. It could come as a form of weird excitement, outlandish laughter, or some sort of moody attitudes that could not be explained.
Spending to Impress: People who are trying to hide their true selves always try to overdo things, even in financial matters. When you go out with them, maybe in the form of outing or shopping, they will try to overspend just to cover up the loopholes in their character. This trait of overspending might make you overlook their character flaws or inconsistent personality traits. Some might just be overspending as a way of distracting you. When you see someone telling you to eat what you or take whatever you want when you go out on a date, instead of trying to build deep connection, that person is hiding their true selves.
Avoiding Physical Contact: If you touch them with your hand and they are repulsive or indignant, they are hiding their true selves. When you touch people that are their real selves, they will respond naturally. Physical touch is even among the five love language. This means that real people want to be touch, held or adored. So, when you see someone cringing at any physical touch or avoiding physical intimacy, that person is hiding their true selves. Some people might flare up out of anger or trauma, but beyond the drama lies a personality that is different from who you are seeing.
Strange Phone Calls and Keeping Strange Friends: That moment they will always go to a corner or outside to pick a call, that’s a clear indication that they are not real. It shows that they have something to hide. It is understandable if the place is noisy or filled with people, but when you see your partner always taking an excuse to go to a secluded place to make or pick a call, there is danger ahead. Worse still, if you eavesdrop him having strange conversations on phone or speaking in coded languages when he is not in the military or any official functions where some languages are used, it’s a red alert that the they are hiding their true selves.
Similarly, if there are some strange people always coming around him, especially at odd hours, it’s a sign that they are not real. If he is keeping strange friends that you don’t like, that’s a sign. The fact that he does not want to introduce you to his friends is even a sign that he is not being real to you. Men usually introduce people they love to their friends and family. So, if they are always hanging around friends that are strange or weird, that is a sign that they are hiding their true selves.
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