At the beginning of every relationship, there is always that urge to post your partner on all your social media platforms to show the world that you’ve got a new partner. As good as it may seem, some men don’t do that. This particular set of men is the one we are talking about here. What could be the problem? Why won’t he post you on some or all of his social media platforms?
1. If He Sees Social Media As Means Of Creating Illusion, Not Reality:
When your man has the perception of social media as illusions, not reality, he would most likely not consider posting you. These illusions are meant to impress, oppress, or compete. Most importantly, these illusions are fueled by an underlying sense of competition. The unspoken truth here is that some men are not cut out for this competitive lifestyle. That desire to feel among the people who have babies. That urge to show the world that you’ve left the ‘singlehood’ community. It might just be a mirage to him. The social media is not a real place. People only show you what they want you to see. So, if he doesn’t post you, it could mean that he doesn’t want to join the competition online of who has the most beautiful babe or partner or even who could get you. You are someone to be loved, not a trophy to be won.
2. He Appreciates Privacy: It can also show that your man appreciates privacy. Relationship is supposed to be a private affair but this woke generation has made it a public thing. If someone should even post your spouse without your consent, it could be termed invasion of privacy. The truth remains that if you keep your relationship private, it may last longer than you think. This is because people can’t attack what they don’t know.
3. He Has High Self-Esteem:
In addition, it shows that your man has high self-esteem. It’s people with low self-esteem that post their partners on social media in a desperate bid to get social validation. A man with high self-esteem knows his worth, that it does not depend on likes or public approval. It’s usually people with low self-esteem that chase the feel-good hormones called dopamine hiding in the form of likes and good comments.
4. He’s Not Ready To Lose You:
It also shows your partner is not ready to lose you. A wise man once said that if you have it, don’t flaunt it because if you flaunt it, you will soon lose it. This advice is important because of the tempting urge to post your partner often. You want to show others that you’ve got a partner and probably make them envious of your new found love. In the local parlance, we call it “pepper dem”. There is no gain saying that this is a subtle oppression and some men don’t want that. What is the point in trying to oppress or impress when there is a saying that says, “they that oppress shall be oppressed?” A lot of relationships have been broken because they opened it up to the wild world of social media.
5. He’s Protecting You:
It could also be that your partner is trying to protect you. There are witches and wizards flying around the social media space. Not everyone is happy for you. Not even everyone wants you to be happy. A man who truly loves you will protect you from these social media hawks. There are stories of people who go behind the partners’ back to tell stories that are malicious just to put asunder between them. This case can be avoided if there is nothing like posting on social media. A real man protects what he loves. One certain man rightly pointed out that a woman is like a field, if you don’t protect it, other people’s goat will eat it. A real man protects his partner, not out of insecurity but out of love and regard.
6. Commitment Issues:
You also have to learn that not posting you on his social media platforms might be an obvious sign of someone with commitment issue. There are men who are just catching cruise in their relationships. A man who is not yet committed to you cannot post you on his social media platforms. This is because commitment is a psychological thing. It’s a decision a man must make personally. It’s funny that some women don’t know that some men know what they are doing. Nobody can be forced to commit to someone. No matter how much you try, a man can only be kept only if he wants to be kept. The heart knows where it belongs. Don’t also forget that some men don’t post because they are waiting for clarity first. For them, it is clarity before commitment. They want to be sure that you’ve come to stay.
7. You’re Just an Option:
Consequently, it might be a clear signal that you are just an option in his game. If you dig deeper, you will see the face behind the mask. A man who is a serial womanizer will not post anyone on his social media platforms because it’s not in his nature. You are not his priority. You are just a pawn on his chessboard. He has many girls at his beck and call that he cannot risk losing them with just one post. Most men want to keep their options open. It’s actually a game of interest. A brutal one for that matter. Sometimes, it’s good to ask your partner why he is not posting you. If you get slightest hint that he is lying, you are right. Trust your instincts. If he is hiding something, it will reveal itself sooner than later.
8. He Craves Deep Connection: Subsequently, understand that some men crave deep connection rather than online applause. The reason why he is not posting you could be because he wants to savor your beauty and presence. He wants you for himself. He knows that once you are outside there in public domain, temptation and distraction are bound to come. This type of man is seeking for heart-to-heart communication and not the royal rumble comments on social media platforms.
Conclusively, it is important to know your type of man and his reasons for not posting you on his social media platforms before complaining that he is not posting you. The above points are the unspoken truths nobody is willing to tell you but now you know better.
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